I was just reading up one of THOSE articles - where they tell you how to maintain a collapsing friendship or relationship. And one of the key points mentioned was: Maintain a comfortable distance. Don't smother them with closeness, don't be too distant for casual conversation.
That set me thinking (as always). What is a comfortable distance? Is there a measure, some particular quantity, or some sort of formula to calculate what exactly would be comfortable between people? Not really, no.
So then, how are you supposed to know if you're smothering someone? I know I've gotten really closed to some people in a surprisingly short amount of time. Would maintaing that closeness be suffocating? I have no idea. It isn't yet....but then people work in different ways.
So where does that leave me?
With a lot of questions, that's where.
But then, surely you'd know. You'd know when a person thinks you're much too close to them, if they think they don't have enough space. If you don't get it, surely they'll tell you.
And besides....none of my Happy friendship hills is collapsing.
Note to Self: Stop reading articles by psychologists.
lol that was a good one , well i dunno the idea of a comfortable distance bw friends only comes when either one of the parties actually starts thinking about it . its like when ur close to someone n both of them r okay with it then there isnt any worry about comfortable distance n both of them r okay with that level of closeness . but "distance" on a comparitive scale only shows up when either one of them feel suffocated....
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EXACTLY my point. =)
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